Three's A Crowd

Currently, my living situation has hit a huge bump in the road. One of my roommate's has decided to move out. I'm trying my best to stay out of the dispute, but it's nearly impossible. I've realized living with a total of three people never works out. When I lived in L.A, I lived with my friend Sean. Then my friend Nicole moved in, she and I had a falling out, Sean took her side and moved out and in with her. A couple of years later, my friend Derek lived with me. Soon after I met Ex Boyfriend, he moved in. For a while, the three of us got along, but Derek eventually moved out. Sometimes in order to salvage the friendship, someone needs to move out. Luckily, I have maintained friendships with Sean and Derek. I'd still like to be friends with her after she moves. I just can't live with her. In a three person living situation, it's always 2 against 1. Always. I'll admit my other roommate and I are in alliance, but I feel I should stay out of it because I'm the new girl. I'm not even on the lease. The lease is up in June which means the next few months will be interesting. My roommate says she's going to move out, but I'll believe it when I see it. She's not the kind to take initiative. She's exacerbating the situation by dying her hair purple, slamming doors, and deleting my other roommate and I from Myspace. The game of avoidance is in full throttle. Why can't people just be adult? My other roommate and her booked a trip to Germany in April. I have a feeling their trip going to be canceled. This is why people should plan things way in advance. Things always come up. At least the roommate that's staying is the breadwinner of the group, so even if we can't find a new roommate immediately, we'll be okay. She is also the one with the cat, so I still get to have a kitty. The parallels between living with this roommate and Ex Boyfriend are uncanny. Both are nothing but drama and have extreme emotional issues that consume everyone else in their lives. At one time or another, they have threatened to commit suicide just to get attention. They both refuse to change or seek help for said emotional issues. I spent 5 yrs dealing with Ex Boyfriend's wild moods swings, nervous breakdowns, immaturity, and low points and I refuse to do it with another roommate. I don't have tolerance for this sort of behavior. Note to roommate: dying your hair purple doesn't make you edgy. You couldn't be edgy if you tried. It's not who you are. And while your at it, start wearing some gray or brown. Wearing black all the time creeps me out.

Come to think of it, I don't think I've ever had a pleasant living situation. There have been moments of goodness, but mainly drama. Living with my cousin was drama. Living with my ex was drama. Living with a 40 year old lesbian, drama. And now more drama. WTF? I thought I had finally found a decent living situation, but I have since been proven wrong. Maybe a perfect living situation doesn't exist. I feel at this point maybe I should just be done with it and get my own place. But, I do think I'm compatible with my other roommate and hopefully we'll be able to move into our own place and not have any drama. Plus she's a workaholic, so she's not around a lot during the week. I have enough stress in my life already to have to come home to an even more stressful and tense environment. The chi is angry. It's been thrown off balance. Once the cog in the wheel is removed, the chi will be restored to a more positive place.

I hate dissonance. In the immortal words of Rodney King: can't we all get along?

To anyone living in or wanting to move to Chicago reading this: do you or anyone you know need a place to live for three months? Melodramatic queens need not apply.